Monday, September 18, 2017

Seasonal Awareness



The September equinox is only a few days away, with the official onset of autumn bringing shorter days, cooler temperatures, changes in humidity, fewer mosquitoes, more flu. Some of us look forward to summer’s passing, while others despair it.

The writer, E.B. White is clearly of the latter persuasion. In his classic tale, Charlotte’s Web, Mr. White writes:

    The crickets sang in the grasses. They sang the song of summer’s ending,
    a sad,  monotonous song. ‘Summer is over and gone,’ they sang. ‘Over and gone.
    Over and gone.’ Summer is dying, dying.’

    The crickets felt it was their duty to warn everybody that summertime cannot
     last  forever. Even on the most beautiful days in the whole year—the days
    when  summer is changing into fall—the crickets spread the rumor of sadness
    and change.

These seasonal changes affect everyone to a greater or lesser degree: our bodies, minds and feelings (spirits).  Our internal clock, governed by the central nervous system, operates on a circadian rhythm that is geared to hours of light and dark, as well as heat and cold, which impact mood, mental alertness, hunger, and heart function.

To some extent, we’re vulnerable to our genetic constitution. People living in cold climates have been shown to have a gene mutation that directs a larger portion of excess calories to generating body heat. Of course, these individuals are more likely to be miserable in hot weather.

Since we’re entering the cooler seasons, I’ll speak about adverse effects of the winter months.

Light influences our vitamin and hormone production. With fewer hours of daylight, we produce less Vitamin D, and lowered amounts of this vitamin, can lead to tiredness. Greater production of melatonin, the sleep-inducing hormone, heightens fatigue in susceptible individuals. The production of serotonin, the hormone responsible for mood regulation, diminishes, causing depression in some.

An extreme response to these physiologic changes is SAD, or seasonal affective disorder. In Florida, only 1.4% of people experience classic symptoms of depression with the onset of fall and winter, versus 9.9% in Alaska. (A rare person experiences these same symptoms with the beginning of the warmer months).  Treatment with light therapy and/or antidepressant medication may be essential for some of these individuals.

The rare condition of Raynaud’s disorder is a bodily reaction to the cold in which the blood vessels of the fingers and/or toes constrict and block the blood flow to cause pain and discoloration, or in extreme cases, gangrene.

With these hormonal changes, we may feel less motivated to move and more tendency to over-eat. Exercise can help by increasing our endorphins, the natural chemicals that can lift our moods.

 The key is to become aware of how the season affects us, and to take action that will  maintain our equilibrium.

Here are a few examples of people who developed strategies for combating the adverse effects of colder weather: Mr. P. learned that he felt better when he resisted the temptation to eat carbohydrates like pastries, and instead, planned a diet with oatmeal, grains, beans and fruit.
Ms. K. struggled with lethargy and motivated herself to walk a mile or two every day by rewarding herself with a body massage.
Mr. Q. lifted his depressed mood by looking forward to a trip he planned to take to a warm climate during the middle of winter.
Ms P. joined a book club that stimulated her to read and meet new people.
Ms. L. cheered herself by wearing soft, warm, colorful clothing.

Conclusion: Adapting to seasonal changes calls for our awareness of the season’s effect on us and perhaps taking some action to maintain our sense of well-being.

Dear Reader, Please share your experiences of steps you take to adapt to the seasonal changes.  jsimon145@gmail.com


Monday, September 4, 2017

Frustration Tolerance and Us


In writing a blog, my goal is to find a new and unusual take on a commonplace topic about which much has already been written.

Frustration tolerance seems to be a particularly relevant because President Trump manifests so little of this quality essential for coping with life’s challenges. He doesn’t tolerate differences in opinion from his advisors and fires dissenters, them, he doesn’t take advice that he doesn’t like.

Although Trump’s ultimate impact on us, our nation, and our world can’t be determined, the situation has called for an increase in frustration tolerance from many of us concerned citizens.

As most of us know, life involves varied and frequent kinds of frustration that we can’t avoid, from delaying gratifications to negotiating with others.

According to Dr. Albert Ellis, the father of rational emotive therapy, frustration leads to distress and unhappiness, and conversely, the ability to tolerate frustration leads to relative contentment.

Individuals who suffer from low frustration tolerance, don’t tolerate unpleasant feelings or stressful situations.  They have trouble accepting reality, and think the world should conform to their expectations. These expectations lead to an increased sense of frustration.

An intact nervous system is the required equipment for handling frustration, and ideally, we learn to tolerate frustration in our developmental years. Many factors affect this ability, including mood disorders like depression, bipolar disorder, as well as attention deficit disorder, addictions and diseases of the nervous system, like dementia.

Common problems arise from the belief that we must never experience and therefore avoid it, or that we must always contain it. Either extreme leads to problems.

Inability to tolerate frustration leads to all kinds of social isolation and/or addictions. In my practice, I’ve seen the dire consequences of acting out of a sense of frustration. For example, Mr. Y. expected others to live up to his own standards. When they disappointed him, he cut off all contact. Needless to say, he has ended up without any friends.
On the other hand, Ms. W., unaware of her level of frustration, which then reached an intolerable level, screamed at her boss and lost a coveted job.

What matters is awareness. When we are aware, we have choices that grant a sense of control about to handle a given situation.

A great asset is the ability to tolerate frustration and discern how to manage it: what to tolerate, what we can change about the situation and when we can do so, when to change our attitude, when to distance ourselves (many of us limit our exposure to the news, for instance) or even walk away.

We live in frustrating times. Lyrics of the popular song,  “Mutual Admiration Society” today could be appropriately modified to: “We Belong to a Mutual Frustrating Society”. Trump is frustrated by the limitations and rules that apply to a democratic presidency, and in frequently pushing the envelope of his office, he frustrates many of us.

Conclusion: More than ever before, life calls for tolerance, self- awareness, and  frustration tolerance.

Dear Reader, I look forward to your comments.

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