The idea for this blog
came when I was speaking to an 82 year old friend, Mr. W, a very smart, social,
semi-retired scientist who mentioned that he needed a project. Although he’d
written a memoir, now he was thinking of beginning a second one. In spite of
his many friends and extended family, he wanted to invest in an ongoing
activity with a foreseeable goal.
Then I began to think of
all the people and patients I know who share Mr. W’s need, and for the most
part, are happier for it.
Then I began to think of
projects like motion for the mind. In a recent New York Times article, Gretchen Reynolds cites research
reporting that people who move often are happier than people who sit in chairs.
When the mind is in motion, we are also happier. Projects serve to lift us out
of ourselves and connect us to other people.
The Cambridge University
psychologist Brian Little has devoted his career to studying how everyday
personal projects are essential for human flourishing.
Bodily maintenance can be
viewed as an essential lifelong project. Taking care of our bodies fosters good
health, which confers energy to invest in projects outside ourselves.
When one project is
completed some people find a related one, and some switch gears entirely. Here
are some examples of people who have changed their focus:
1.
A ballerina becomes a Pilates teacher.
2.
A retired school teacher works as an assistant in children’s
collection at a bookstore.
3. A
retired secretary knits and donates hats and sweaters to the needy.
Some people alter their
activities when physical limitations interfere. A famous example is Grandma Moses, who early in life, owned
and worked on a farm and raised many children. She retired at age 76, and at age 78, when arthritis
interfered with her ability to embroider, she became a painter of bucolic
scenes reminiscent of farm life. When illness interfered with his ability to
paint, the French artist Matisse turned to cutting out shapes for fabric
design.
Sometimes we grapple to
find a project, while at times they drop into our lap. The current governmental
turmoil has motivated and impassioned thousands of people to become involved in
the political scene. Ms. G.
suffered from apathy until Trump’s election stirred up her passions and
conferred a project she believed was essential.
Conclusion: We don’t
outgrow our need for projects that keep us invested (in the world) and happier
in our lives.
Dear Reader, I
look forward to hearing your experiences.
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