Sometimes
defenses get out of hand; instead of protecting us, they become the nexus of
the problem--akin to the kind of thinking that if a little (ice cream,
chocolate) is good, a lot must be better.
The crux of the
matter is that our mind consists of polarities. One aspect opposes another. Psychological and spiritual
pioneers write about this concept in what seems like infinite variations on the
theme: for example, Freud had a theory of Libido (life force) and Thanatos
(death impulse); Jung of animus (masculine) and anima (feminine). We find the
polarities of good and bad in religion, fairy tales, cowboy stories, and politics.
Because our
minds tend to think in dualities, each one of us is capable of addictive
behavior at any time for any reason. Aberration is commonplace. To deal with
denial and avoidance, we confront and become aware. The goal, of course, is to
face a threat with courage, trying to understand and resolve it. For us
fallible humans, this expectation is enormous, requiring time, honesty,
courage, effort and discipline.
Let us recognize
and embrace the duality of the human mind with an inherent propensity for
addiction, not to condone, but to address and, when appropriate say, “There but
for the Grace of God, go I.” (John
Bradford, an Englishman, uttered these words in 1553, witnessing a prisoner
about to be executed at the Tower of London; a short while later, Bradford was
burned at the stake for his Protestant beliefs. Learning about Bradford informs
me that we as a species have made some progress in the realm of tolerance too.)
Conclusion: In
spite of the horrors in today’s world, an understanding and acceptance of human
nature is increasing. Witness Dr. Edwards’ elucidation of alcohol addiction in
the 1960’s and the recognition of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder as a bonefide
entity in 1980.
Dear Reader, As
always, your comments are appreciated. jsimon145@gmail.com.
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